Widow Truth

If you are a widow:
I am sorry you are here.
Please accept my welcome to a club that that you never wanted to join and, in my opinion, needs no new members.
While it may not feel like it (and at time you will wish you were anywhere but here) you can do this.
May these cards give you comfort and support.

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My name is Diane. My handsome husband Walter died unexpectedly in 2017 and these cards contain small life preserving words and actions I found by consciously grieving his death.

These tips are designed to help you now that the ground underneath you has shifted.

The cards are a moment of pause to connect with your true self, and a warm blanket of love from someone who has been where you are now.

Widow Truth Cards are what I wish was available for me and my way of offering my support to you as you traverse this path.

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If you know a widow:

A spouse has died.

The spouse of someone you care about is no longer alive. This is a difficult time that is filled with tremendous emotion. There are ways to help and ways to hurt. Click below to purchase the Widow Truths card deck and share it with your grieving friend as a support tool during this long, life changing process.

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If you are about to write a condolence card ...

What to write and what not to write to a widow.

When the spouse of a friend dies, it can be difficult to know what to say.

These are things I found helpful after my husband died. Of the many cards I received, these are some of what I found most helpful to hear whether in written or verbal form:

I didn't know your husband well, but he was always joyful when I saw him (fill in whatever adjective you feel about the person).

While I don't have the exact situation, I know what you are going through must be incredibly difficult. Even though I don't know what to say, I promise I will be there for you. And then actually BE there.

Death sucks and I can't imagine being anything but angry now. But I love you and you can yell at me if you need to.

I want to support you. I am at Starbucks (or wherever you happen to be) and I'm getting you something. Do you want a latte or a muffin (give specific options)? I can drop it on the porch or stay for a moment if you like

HONESTY IS
BETTER THAN
SUGAR COATED
BULLSHIT.

Stop sharing these clichés:

Heaven needed another angel.

You are young, you can get married again.

When my dog died, I felt the same as you.

You will be happy again.

At least you were married for ___ years.

I had a friend who really came into her own after her husband died.

You will feel better after the funeral.

Call me if you need anything.

For ongoing support and more details about why these things are helpful or not, please join my email list. This list is where I will share more Widow Truths, my widow focused offerings and ways to connect as you walk this path. I view your connection with me as a sacred trust and therefore never share your information.

In the meantime, thank you for sharing these cards and please, above all else, take care of yourself and love your loves.

Love, Diane

In the blog

Widow Truth #987899

Posted by chcs on 11 December 2019

While it may sound strange, every day for the past few years, I've wailed like a child to my guardian angels, some days for hours some days for minutes. Through this daily practice, and my willingness to arrive as I am and let everything out, I've continued to heal and understand how to be more deeply, fully present. Read more